**I'm confused Kola. You promote Blackness and Africa yet you married a White man

SHANNON wrote:

**I'm confused Kola. You promote Blackness and Africa yet you married a White man. You consider mixed kids a new race...but you married a White man and always preaching that we need to love black babies. I love you Kola but I'm confused, girl.

KOLA BOOF:

I LOVE your question sister. Let me explain it to you very bluntly. Please understand that I am a "clinical strategic" type person...not a romantic one. My answer needs to be blunt.

We live in the USA. Not Africa. This is a White Eurocentric nation in which the majority of BM (not all BM, but the majority)....have bought into the White supremacist belief system that light/white is superior. BM not only believe in White supremacy, they actively PROMOTE it and are willing to abandon us to live the Eurocentric cultural norm. While many BW settle for "non-marriage, loose commitment" Surplus Back-Up Status in their determination to love/affirm BM no matter how these BM consider BW the ride or die 3rd Prize....This sets up Cause & Effect.

These self-hating men generally despise BW (for being black, for not having long straight hair, for not producing light enough babies). The men create a culture of LIES and stereotypes about their own women as an excuse to abandon them much the way Whites created Lies & Stereotypes to justify their treatment of Blacks. The psychological abuse that is heaped on BW...the poor treatment...is unacceptable and toxic to our lives. I feel that 70% single motherhood, BW being treated as "surplus back up pussy" by their own men is unacceptable. For those reasons, I advocate that BW open their horizons and actively pursue their emotional needs with other races of men...or....via other women for those who are bisexual.

Now with that....comes consequences.

The consequence is that we "as a people"....will be erased.

We will gradually not exist. Our off spring will be less and less African; they will become a new race....one that we Africans consider "bastardized", removed, exotic and after generations of mixing...Non-related. This is how Arabs, Gypsies, Latinos, White Jews and other groups came into being. They are the bastard children of ancient Africa. And they no longer "us."

Many Black people entering "INTERRACIAL" unions want to have their cake and eat it too. It doesn't work like that. Actions have consequences...and by millions of Blacks having Hawaiian-looking babies and being acculturated by Non-Black parents....we have to face the fact that we are no longer procreating and affirming Africa no matter how we love it.

When we choose another race partner...that is part of the choice we are making.

In my case, I had Full Black sons before I married a White man. The fact that my sons are Full Black was very important to me and to my Clan/Tribe back home. It was a requirement by my dead birth father and by me that I produce Fully Black children. **I am not willing to have children with my White husband; although if the universe implants one....I will go through with it. But it's not my desire to produce a child with him.

Please don't inject "romantic notions of love" and all that ---because that's not how I'm acculturated to think about love and marriage.

I am a Clinical, strategic-thinking person. I married my White Jewish husband because ...he was the best & most logical choice for my life, my son's lives and my well being....I married him and CHOSE to love him for logical-strategic reasons. But this is a very AFRICAN way of thinking and I don't expect you as a Westerner to "get it." Still, that is where I am coming from.

Many Black women don't have a choice about loving/choosing a Black men....the BM simply aren't there for the majority of us. So if we want to have a man and experience that kind of relationship, many of us will have to marry out.

It has consequences and it divides us from Authentic Africa and Authentic Blackness.

" Very good points Kola. What do you guys think? You agree?